1 in 3 Vancouverites Find It Difficult to Make Friends Here

Vancouver Canada News 1 in 3 Vancouverites Find It Difficult to Make Friends Here
June 21, 2012
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A recent survey by the Vancouver Foundation has revealed what many Vancouverites already knew, it’s difficult to make new friends in the city. Is it our predominantly grey weather? This phenomenon has been dubbed the Vancouver complex, however, Vancouver can’t be the only big city with this problem?

The survey of 3,841 residents measured people’s levels of connection and engagement to their friends, to their neighbourhoods, and to the community.

The key gaps the survey uncovered are:

Metro Vancouver can be a hard place to make friends.
31% say it is difficult to make new friends here. And 25% say they are alone more often than they would like to be. These same people are also likelier to experience poorer health, lower trust and a hardening of attitudes toward other community members.

Our neighbourhood connections are cordial, but weak.
74% know the names of at least two of their neighbours but the connections typically stop there. 70% have not visited a neighbour’s home or invited a neighbour over. And 47% do not trust or do not know if their neighbours trust each other.

The most often-cited reason for not knowing neighbours is that people seldom see each other (46%). However, another significant reason seems to be indifference. People have little interest in getting to know their neighbours or say they prefer to keep to themselves (32%).

Many people in metro Vancouver are retreating from community life.
In the past year, only 23% took part in a neighbourhood or community project.

It isn’t a lack of time that stops people from getting involved. The most often-cited reason for not participating in neighbourhood and community life is a feeling that people have little to offer.

There are limits to how people see diversity as an opportunity to forge meaningful
connections. 

35% have no close friends outside their own ethnic group. And 65% believe that most people prefer to be with others of the same ethnicity.

Many people believe all new immigrants and refugees, regardless of where they come from, would be welcome in their neighbourhood. However, a significant number of residents rank which groups they believe would be the most and the least welcome.

The affordability issue in metro Vancouver is affecting people’s attitudes and beliefs.
54% believe Vancouver is becoming a resort town for the wealthy. These same people also tend to think that there is too much foreign ownership of real estate.

Today’s release is only the top-level results of the survey. Vancouver Foundation will continue to analyse the data and will release further reports on particular communities and issues throughout the summer.

The survey was done by Sentis Market Research, who interviewed 3,841 people across metro Vancouver using a mixed mode method for gathering the data: 2,806 online surveys and 1,035 telephone interviews were collected in April and May, 2012. Most interviews took place in English, but when necessary interviews were also conducted in Cantonese, Mandarin or Punjabi. The survey has a maximum margin of error of +/- 1.6% at the 95% level of confidence.

The survey report can be found on our website at:  www.vancouverfoundation.ca/connect-engage

Image by VanCityPhotographer

  • Rina

    I moved to Vancouver from Calgary almost 2 years ago, and if it wasn’t for my friends that aren’t from Vancouver then I would have no friends! Well that’s not true, I have met many wonderful people here in Vancouver, not many that I stay in constant connection. It seems like people are super busy doing nothing here! Most people I’ve met here will be your best friend when you first meet them but then you rarely see them again. I find it quite cliquey here.

  • Mark Mahl

    After being in this city for the past two years, and fairly extroverted, I would agree that it is hard to make friends. Getting to know people is one thing, but getting accepted into an already developed friends circle is difficult. I love this city in a lot of ways, but people just seem so contained and protective of what they have, and don’t consider that you may have nothing to do or are alone when you are so new here.

  • Maverick

    First world problems

  • Maverick

    First world problems

  • Smiles-a-lot

    You get back what you put out there. If you have a friendly, welcoming energy and attitude, people are naturally drawn to you. Don’t be a afraid to talk to strangers in social settings (games, movies, lineups, etc), and don’t turn ur nose up at people who talk to you! Join a team, say hi to that yogi who practices with you every day, there are so many ways to talk to and meet people – the first step to building a friendship. I meet new people all the time, my group of friends is always up for new additions so we invite new acquaintances to the park, to the beach, to the pub and over to our apartment. I have also known lots of recluse types you just sit back and complain they never meet people. Maybe because you never go out, never try anything new, and look like your PMS is in overdrive if someone talks to you (ah!). Social media has made the general public incapable of real life social connections as well. It’s quite sad. 

  • Nikki

    As someone who moved to Van less than 5 years ago I can safely say that a little proactivity goes a long way.

    Get involved in team sports, volunteer, work for fun/ international companies that foster social gatherings/ also employee young people. Don’t wait for others to introduce you to ppl, invite you to fun stuff/ events - organise and round up participants yourself.

    You’ll ATTRACT friends towards you instead of chasing them down. And Remember – for every (1) person you meet who is insular and doesn’t want to meet anyone new you can & will meet (3) people who will appreciate your friendliness!

  • Bastiaan

    For sure! I moved here in december 2011 from the Netherlands. I already had family here and been here on holidays, and wanting to experience the Canadian life. In Europe it is very normal to go to a pub and meet new people there, here I don’t get any futher then the “Polite social talk” to other people, and as soon that is over they go their own way (they could just have said “no” either)

    Most people I spend time with, are other “Internationals” experiencing the same thing like me, I would say the “Vancouverite” is rather “polite and friendly” than “Direct and honest”, not that this would be a bad thing, but it is a major cultural difference from what I was used to in Europe.

  • Joe Vancouver

    I would agree that people are closed off in Vancouver. We’re all too tired to go out and meet new people because many of us have long hours at work in order to afford to live here! Going out in Van can be very expensive and a person has to pay rent and bills first.Plus our schedules don’t ever seem to match up with the people we do want to socialize with. After a while we give up. Quality time with family and a few close friends is all I can find the time and energy for these days. 

  • Vince

    Very unfriendly, clique, anti-social city. The hardest city to make friends in. Coming back from Toronto you can see this very easily

    I was in Toronto for a week and made more friends than the past 2 years here in Vancouver. Now if I could get that transfer to Toronto please

  • Snowy-one

     it depends on the person but many just have no time. are self conscious, maybe socially awkward, prefer to be alone. racism and xenophobia should stop because even when people aren’t either, there is a perception of it because people think others only want to stick to their own. it is not true. there are also a lot of people just into themselves are image conscious and materialistic. i like multicultural areas not areas which are heavily centered towards one ethnic group. i like Clayton heights in Cloverdale Surrey.

  • Sara Bynoe

    I run several events and have found it’s made a wonderful community. The people that come to Dance Dance Party Party and my comedy shows have started to become my second family. It’s a slow process to become a part of a community. It takes consistency, a routine and a desire to become involved.